MOTHERING ADVISE ANYONE?

I usually don't just blog my feelings, but tonight I thought I would. I am just going to put it out there.... I feel like a HORRIBLE MOTHER and my three year old is pushing me (and Sam) over the edge.

I do realize this is partially our fault. We let him get his way so he'll be quiet. It's just easier to not hear him cry and whine for things. Unfortunately, NOW, that's all Sam and I hear, crying and whining. (You would think by her 3rd child she would have the "mothering thing" down. But, NO! She doesn't.)

I need any advise to help me get my three year old under control. Tage is so much fun. He cracks us up and is very passionate about life. However over these past 7 months he's developed this attitude and I am at my whits end. He's whinny, sassy, and runs me ragged. He clings onto me every second of everyday. Seriously, I SHOULD NOT have to go to the bathroom with him EVERY TIME he goes potty. He's been trained for almost 9 months now. AHHHH! The kid clothes himself every morning, that should tell you he knows how to pull up his britches.

I know it is partially due to having a new sister but, enough is enough. I keep telling myself it will change. However, here we still are, fighting it out. I am putting my weapons down and surrendering to GOOD ADVISE. I need to change and I need HELP.

I have been praying a lot about how to change my mothering skills, or lack thereof, so that I can help him behave better. So, now I ask you mothers for some GOOD advise. (I still have number 4 who one day will enter into her 3's and by golly, I want to HAVE IT DOWN by then.)